Overcoming jealousy and insecurity

The main objective of my work was to make sure that I never end up in the same predicament again. A part of assuring that was also having to learn how to navigate being “good” in a world that has given body-focused women a place of praise and worship. The decision making of men measures what woman is better than the other, which woman is worth being with over the other, and men have historically rewarded women who have been able to or willing to prey on their greatest weakness: lust.

So much so that the behavior of man has created this idea that a woman's crowned jewel is our bodies and ability to be sexually appealing. The lust of men and the jealousy of other women have become the foundation that many women have built their confidence on top of. Many women relish in the fact that their presence can cause problems within another woman. Many women relish in the fact that a man can be standing next to his girlfriend or wife and break his neck looking at her walk away.

The basis of two women not getting along is usually because of a man. A woman wants to take a jab at another woman, she is going to do so with a man. Male attention fuels this behavior and mindset. Being a woman who wants to hold onto my sanity, whether it's while single or in a relationship, I had to learn how invaluable male attention is.

In one of my videos, Satan Manipulation I believe, I mentioned how being a woman is like standing in a football field full of other women waiting to get picked by a man. Under the guise that our purpose is wrapped in love and relationships, this is and should be a woman's main objective, landing a man. Standing in this field, the way I described my experience was being on the side of less chosen.

Being able to witness everybody else getting picked and chosen on, it automatically makes you want to change something about yourself in hopes that those changes will get you noticed. We take direction and note from those who seem to have it all figured out believing that their way is the best way to go. A woman that has no issue getting male attention and having a rotation of boyfriends, some many think that it is best to follow in her footsteps.

In this video, I also mentioned that we don't really get to see what happens to a lot of these women once they get picked. We get jealous, become insecure, and start doubting ourselves believing that what they're getting is something worth having. Until life and knowledge teaches us otherwise, there is an ASSUMPTION that because a man turned his attention to a particular woman, that he did so because he genuinely liked her. There is an assumption that every man who is out looking for something, is looking for love. There is an assumption that a woman being "chosen" over you is because she's better.

It's not too often we get to see the truth about what goes on once certain selections happen or see the pain in a lot of these other women's lives. We just see the facade that gets put up and the Instagram pictures.

Oh... but I've found a situation!

Before we get into it, due to the nature of some things, don't get too caught up in judgement of this woman's deeds that you miss the lessons here. I learned a lot of things from this, so I will be using her as an example in other writings.